My son used to be awful when having his hair cut however is now coping well. He has the same girl cut his hair every time and providing she is at the barbers when we get there all is well  (if not we have to come back another time)And of course she musn't squirt the water at him, which i make sure to remind her every time. If she forgets im in trouble when we get out the shop. oh and of course a clean t shirt to put on cos he cant stand wearing the one with the slightest bit of hair on it. They always give him a sweet after finishing which he likes.

I have Asperger Syndrome and well trained, I don't think your child should tantrum.

He need to start growing by not throwing a fist every time he get mad. He need a basic anger management.

Listening to music does distract him from fustration and they are good for relieving anxiety.

You should try enrolling him into swimming program. Swimming should relieve stress and anxiety. Less stress, mean less tantrum. Less interaction, mean less anxiety.

I have no problem getting my haircut. I would take him to a barbershop. There is a certain vibration and professional handywork that make it a massaging feeling to the head.

A good massage can lower stress thus lower anxiety and tantrum. Did you know that?

I can't wear the ear buds either. They don't fit. They hurt and then they fall out. As for the haircut, you might try to analyze the issue with him and see what kind of compromise you too could make regarding it. Like, if it was really fast, or if the barber didn't talk while he did it, or if he got to eat somewhere special afterwards kind of thing.

I have a friend who cuts her son's hair when he's asleep. he looks like one of the Beattles in their early days. very cute. Also, as you know, consistency is key. my daughter goes to the same hairdresser every time. she moved to a new place and so did we. she is now in back of a fancy children's store in Madison Park called "the Original Children's Shop." her name is Pam and she plays videos from a laptop (you could likely bring your own). I would not however recommend the fancy store that houses the hair salon. surprisingly they are not very child-friendly. they keep a dog there and if your child has a problem with the dog, or wants to play with it, they strangely act as if it's your problem, not theirs.very bizarre. good luck!

I don't think I could cut his hair on my own. I wish I could, but I'm really bad with hair - too many variables.

I mentioned to my mother that you suggested cutting his hair and she said my sister uses a 'flowbee' on my nephews. It's a device that hooks on to the vacuum cleaner and cuts hair using the suction. My son seemed extremely afraid of the idea that his hair would get sucked up in the vacuum. I think he'd like it if he tried it, but I don't know if I'll be able to get him to try it. Since the cutting his hair myself seems to be beyond my ability, I'll try working on your first suggestion of coming up with a story for my son. Hopefully a story will rewrite the 'bad' story he has in his head about the last haircut. Thank you so much for your help with this.

I wonder if there are any books that could work to discuss the haircut situation? I'm assuming that you've heard of "social stories". You might be able to write one out for him that will explain what will happen at the salon... alternatively, do you have any friends who cut their own kids' hair? I did it for several years, including through the teen years for my kids and the neurotypical kid didn't mind, so I guess I wasn't a bad hair stylist. :-) You could try to do it yourself with the help of a book. I don't know if that would work out for you. Also, going to a different salon than the one where he had the bad experience might work. You could ask your son if he is mostly upset about seeing the same hair stylist again or if he doesn't like that particular salon, the colors of the salon, or what it might be that bugs him the most.